Santhana Gruhe sthitha Vrudha Ashtakam

 santhana Gruhe sthitha Vrudha Ashtakam

(The octet on oldies living in their children’s home)

By

P.R.Ramachander

(Based on the tamil write up by my face book friend Padmanabhan Subramanian, Thanks to him)

1.Being always there in the home doing nothing at home,

They try to be critical of all activities of all people of the home,

And this is not only not liked but also hated by younger ones,

And so it would be better that they tell their opinion only when requested.

2.Most of the youngsters feel that the old people are a burden,

Because though , they are able to do, they do not do even small help in their homes,

In spite of most of them being pay bills, go to the bank , baby sit for some time and cut vegetables,

But they say , “I have done lot of work earlier and so I keep quiet” making youngsters hate them.

3.Most of the elders simply relax , ordering others about , most of the time in a harsh tone,

And they become agitated if their orders are not obeyed expeditiously every time

It would be better that they do not think that they are the bosses in the house,

But think about how they would be able to cooperate and contribute to joy in the house.

4.All the senior people should remember that , their daughter in law has parents ,

And it is her right to love as well as help them and their son should also be civil with them,

And they should not at any time in their speech compare their daughter and daughter in law,

For this would animosity in their daughter in law and never increase their daughter’s love .

5.All the senior citizens would have very close friends as well as dear relations,

But if they want to invite them to the home of their children , it is expected,

That they should inform them early and get their consent and also choose a proper time,

Especially when they expect to join them for tea, lunch or dinner.

6.They due to their experience would be in a position to give proper advice to give to youngsters,

But times have changed and so if they have any opinion ,

It would be better , if they tell it in a soft tone , detailing the possible,

Positive and negative results .and leave it to the youngsters to decide.

7.After they become old , under no circumstance should they,

Give all that they have to the younger generation , under the impression,

That it is the duty of the young to look after them and they would do it,

But keep sufficient money of their earnings with them for medical and other emergencies.

8.The grandpa and Grandma should under no circumstance ,

Interfere in the strict upbringing of their grand children by their children,

They should not give money to the grand children without the parents knowledge ,

Nor should they advice the children to tell lies nor bear false witness to them.

Phala sruthi

If the old parents living in their children’s home,

Read this great octet and follow its principles,

They would spend their old age as if in heaven,

And their children would treat them like gods.